It's Time to Stop Wasting Our Time

By Ajoua Jackson

I remember when I was so busy wanting love from the person I was dating that I forgot about loving me first. I was so busy giving me away that I forgot to give to myself. I was so lost that I allowed myself to be with someone who didn’t love or respect me. Honestly, he didn’t even want me. I wanted love so bad that I was scared to walk away. 

Funny, when I walked into that relationship my confidence and self esteem was so high. Through words and actions I mentally allowed someone to break me down. 

If I could go back and talk to my twenty something year old self…. Lawd a mercy. 

The day I realized that if I gave one more piece of me, I would be lost and gone forever. I stopped giving, but they never stopped trying to take. My eyes began to open to the real them, not looking through my blinders to see them as I wanted them to be. 

I started liking me which allowed me to fall back in love with myself. This was a GAME CHANGER. 

Love of self and like of self forces you to move differently. It forces you to put up boundaries. It forces you to say NO. It forces you to walk away when you want to stay because the sex, emotions and words are giving you false sense of hope. 

Pay attention to your gut. God gave us intuition for a reason. When you see those red flags, take heed. Stop making excuses for these signs. Stop playing the victim. Stop willingly allowing someone to emotionally and mentally abuse you. 

It’s time to take back our crown. It’s time to stop wasting our time, actions (LOVE) on the undeserving. 

Ajoua Jackson is the owner of AJ Excursions travel agency and author of Scotch on the Rocks. The book is a collection of stories and lessons taught to her by her Momma. She wrote these stories to make ladies laugh and think about life and the many lessons it teaches them.