Let's Celebrate Self-love

By Jessica Lewis

Michelle Obama recently sat down with Oprah Winfrey during her 2020 Vision stop at Barclays Center. When Oprah asked Michelle what has she learned in her 28 year relationship with Barack, Michelle said, “I’ve learned that Barack is not responsible for my happiness.” What a profound statement. So you’re telling me that not even your husband, your life’s partner, your best friend is responsible for your happiness. You are. How often do we put stock in other people making us happy. We think that what we’re longing for will be satisfied by companionship. Well, honey, you heard it here first. The only person responsible for your happiness is you.

With Valentine’s Day here and store shelves stocked with teddy bears, chocolates, roses and candy, you better make sure you love your self first. No man, or woman for that matter, can make you happy. If you bank on that you will always be disappointed. People are trying to sustain their own happiness. How can they ensure yours when they are trying to sustain theirs.

Valentine’s Day isn’t just for lovers. Let’s redefine what it means for us singles and celebrate together.

Join us for the official SDBC Galentine's Day Weekend:

Friday, February 14th at 6pm 

The Taste of Bahamas, located at 4705 Lake Avenue, is one of Rochester’s premier black owned restaurants. Their Valentine’s Day special is just what the doctor ordered! They are serving a surf and turf dinner for 2 which includes two steaks or two lobsters with two sides for $80. Join me for an evening of dining on Friday, February 14th at 6pm. This dinner will be a treat for all in attendance. Once we are there we will match up in pairs of two and split the cost for dinner. Please RSVP to singledopeblackchick@gmail.com if you plan to attend so I can ensure seating for everyone. 

Saturday, February 15th at 7pm 

Issa Rae’s new movie, The Photograph, is in theaters on Valentine's Day. In the movie, Issa plays a character named Mae. When her estranged mother passes away she finds a photograph tucked away in a safe-deposit box and soon finds herself delving into her mother's early life. That investigation leads to an unexpected romance with a rising journalist. Watch the trailer here. We'll purchase tickets for Saturday, February 15th for the 7:05pm showing at Regal Henrietta.  Please meet in the theater lobby 15 minutes prior to the movie start time.